tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5661834798452792476.post1044140985496634563..comments2023-10-15T04:15:58.295-07:00Comments on Life after Infertility & Loss: The Double B Book BrigadeJuliaShttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10668995954240697998noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5661834798452792476.post-35152052737603555112008-04-16T14:21:00.000-07:002008-04-16T14:21:00.000-07:00Thank you for your thoughts on the book! Your fami...Thank you for your thoughts on the book! Your family ritual of celebrating on the family members birthday even when far away sounds very interesting and definately a way to hold close those that are far away.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07867933967446707278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5661834798452792476.post-21901399211020451732008-04-15T20:23:00.000-07:002008-04-15T20:23:00.000-07:00You bring up some excellent points about grieving ...You bring up some excellent points about grieving and parenting.Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5661834798452792476.post-89816751378254423082008-04-15T19:37:00.000-07:002008-04-15T19:37:00.000-07:00I totally agree with your point about grief not fo...I totally agree with your point about grief not following a set timeline, and about people having to make choices about what's right for them. Life can only be lived in one direction, and the answer cannot simply be that one can never have a family after loss. Because if that's the case, then I am out of the running.Queenie. . .https://www.blogger.com/profile/00666609807461763029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5661834798452792476.post-26672263047796545662008-04-15T19:20:00.000-07:002008-04-15T19:20:00.000-07:00I loved hearing all the LDS stuff--I am woefully i...I loved hearing all the LDS stuff--I am woefully ignorant in LDS and want to learn more.<BR/><BR/>I think the point you made about the discrepancy between determining a grief timeline within adoption but not within pregnancy is what I was ineloquently saying over at I Won't Fear Love. How can someone else know when you're ready? And if this is of utmost importance, why aren't doctors stepping in to help guide those attempting pregnancy when they are emotionally ready to try again?<BR/><BR/>See, I'm still not saying this well.Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5661834798452792476.post-67517965152497165182008-04-15T15:56:00.000-07:002008-04-15T15:56:00.000-07:00Thank you for your answers. What a great idea your...Thank you for your answers. What a great idea your family has on sending letters to relatives and asking questions! This is something I think I'll have my children do - it would be really interesting to read the answers.seattlegalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07596706264163818014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5661834798452792476.post-68996434549087048792008-04-15T10:35:00.000-07:002008-04-15T10:35:00.000-07:00Exactly! There is no set timeline for grieving, s...Exactly! There is no set timeline for grieving, so to try and make one is awfully presumptuous. :0)<BR/><BR/>Besides, I know that initially in my grief - I was incapable of figuring out to wear, making decisions even easy ones like what to eat for breakfast (or even eat at all) were almost impossible. I could not have started the adoption process and followed through without getting past that first.JuliaShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10668995954240697998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5661834798452792476.post-44246527764226701262008-04-15T05:53:00.000-07:002008-04-15T05:53:00.000-07:00Julia, thank you, you expressed so eloquently many...Julia, thank you, you expressed so eloquently many of the reasons why I find genealogy & family connections so fascinating. You also had some great thoughts on the homestudy process & grief. There is probably some benefit to working through your grief for awhile before attempting another pregnancy or adoption -- but at the same time, who's to say just how long that period should be?loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.com